How Your Birth Order Shapes Your Personality

Do have a sister or brother? Have you ever asked why they are painting? Or why their minds are in other places? Why they walk in nature instead of just taking and joining in a group event after school? Is there a member of your family who complains that you are too bossy? Well, you are not alone if questions like these come up in your family. This happens in the majority of families. And who plays the major role on this?? It’s the birth order.

What imprint upon your personality is the order in which you were born. According to researchers, there are several unique traits held by first borns, middle, last borns and only child. In this article, I will show you the characteristics of each birth order. Let’s see if how well these traits reflect your family.

How Your Birth Order Shapes Your Personality

First Borns

First borns have an inclination of being perfectionists as they are trained by their parents who, as new parents, devote time anxiously in trying to do everything right for their child. That’s why, as a result, they take this way of being upon themselves.

Generally, when first borns are still kids, they tend to communicate well with adults. But oftentimes, they can be overly careful and tends to worry. Controlling over things is what they like most. More often, they think that they are more competent than others. Usually, they are high achievers in all areas – in school, professionally and even in appearances. They are hardworking employees. They like to achieve and excel.

Characteristics of First Borns:













Middle Borns

Middle children are those born into families where personality is already established – an older sibling is there. There is already a one or more senior siblings assuming responsibility at the time of their birth and growing up. In the case of parenting, the parents of middle children are less nervous and more relaxed.

Often times, middle children play off of the first born. On the other hand, as compared to first borns, middle children are not perfectionists. They instead have that feeling of the need to seek a way to gain recognition and to earn their place in the family. In their own ways, they tend to be creative to earn attention. And often times, they feel that they don’t get enough attention. Sometimes, they can also be rebellious.

Typically middles make good friends and have great social skills. They are versatile, adaptive and creative.

Characteristics of Middle Borns:





Can be rebellious



Feels left out

Last Borns

Parents of last borns are considerably more relaxed in their attention and care. Often times, the last born receives and loves attention in the form of being called cute. They have their creative attempts to find ways to catch attention and sympathy of others. Also, they are natural charmers.

Last borns are adventurers, tend to be free spirits, just go with the flow and risk takers. Things like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. are not their major concerns. They rather enjoy life as it comes.

A unique challenge is faced by last borns. For the parents, the time when the first born catches the ball was a very special moment. But when the last born is the one who catches the ball, it has already been done and not met with the same interest as when the first born was the one who did it.

Characteristics of Last Borns:








Seeks attention

The Only Child

The only child experiences more of what a first born experiences because there are no other children to divide their parents' attention. The only child is often very at ease dealing and communicating with adults and older people. This would result in being a perfectionist or having an aim to achieve something. In some times, they can be very sensitive to criticisms of people around them.

Being the center of attention, only children frequently seek approval, have a hard time relaxing and focus on details. Though they often reap great rewards professionally, these characteristics can sometimes interfere with their personal happiness in life.

Characteristics of Only Children:




The center of attention


Mature for their age

Seek approval



Why does this happen?

The factors that impact these characteristics has everything to do with the relationship between parents and child and with the siblings toward one another. It has nothing or little to do with DNA.

Gap Children

In children with large gaps, most of them play the role of a first born rather than the middle or last born.

Adopted Children

The order the adopted child was born of his or her mother will not matter anymore. The placement within the adopted family is the one that would determine the personality trait of the child.

Thank you for reading this article. Share this information with your family and friends.